Marriage Counselling St. Albert

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How does Marriage counselling work?

iMentalHealth Counselling Services offers Marriage counselling in the City of Saint Albert, Alberta. We Also offer online and in person appointments. 

The main framework for marriage counselling that iMentalHealth uses is a Gottman approach which utilizes principles that are evidence based to help couples succeed. The few areas that we like to assess for in the first meetings are the strength of friendship, trust, commitment, conflict management, creating shared meaning and knowing and supporting each others dreams. 

We can help give you tools that are proven to be effective for many couples.

A lot of couples want to come for therapy and jump right into solving problems and many might have the expectation that the therapist is there to give advice and solve it for you. With Gottman Couples therapy, the first few sessions are to get to know you as a couple and to use assessment as the building blocks for therapy goals that are based on Gottman 7 principles of making marriage work. These principles are what set the masters of relationships apart from the disasters of relationships. I want to be clear that in the first few sessions there may be a lot of assessment of your relationship and also some teaching.

In the second session we do an individual interview with each of you, so we can assess each person individually in terms of their perspective, history, goals for therapy, and individual goals and things you would like to see as a couple. It is interesting to have this interview with each person because it allows us to perhaps see some areas of agreement, that may surprise the couple. At the end of the second session we recommend that couples do an online assessment tool to assess the relationship strengths and weaknesses. This is called a Gottman Checkup and will show areas that are really strong in your relationship, and areas that may need work. This really helps us establish goals and have some things that have been proven to be effective to work on.

This session is usually spent going through the results of the assessment, and discussing with the couple about these key areas to really develop goals and begin the work of learning some tools. These results really are a way to see those areas you may really be doing well which can be encouraging to many people. There may also be some areas that you didn’t know were a problem but could be something that could really impact your relationship.  Some people find that the assessment helps give language to those specific areas that need work and the research behind why that specific area may be wreaking havoc on your satisfaction or quality of relationship.

This is where we go through different exercises that will help you learn to build your relationship back to where you would like it to be. Usually we like couples to discuss things together and we will interject, and help the process, provide feedback, redirection and expertise on how to connect, engage in healthy dialogue about difficult issues and find your partners dreams behind their complaints. 

We can help give you tools that are proven to be effective for many couples

A Few Signs you may need couples counselling

  • You have difficulty resolving arguments/disagreements 
  • You get escalated in conflict and do not know how to address perpetual issues. 
  • You see the four horsemen in your relationship which are patterns of criticism, defensiveness, stonewalling and contempt. 
  • You have unresolved issues that have built up over the years. 
  • You have grown apart
  • You are ready to leave the relationship 
  • Your conflict is starting to impact your children

 

How can Counselling Help?

  • Give a non judgmental/neutral perspective 
  • Give you a thorough assessment of your relationship
  • Help you create goals for your relationship 
  • Give you tools to manage conflict
  • Provide tools for intimacy and friendship
Some people leave a marriage literally, by divorcing. Others do so by leading parallel lives together.

Why consider marriage counselling services?

Many people find that it has helped them to cope with things temporarily or it helps them in some way; however, it is taking a toll on relationships, mental wellness, job performance, physical health. You may have family starting to get concerned, or maybe you are concerned about it. What may have started as a way to unwind or have fun, could potentially lead to your world becoming unmanageable.

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